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10 Ways to Start
Taking Control Your Life
When life does not turn out the way we have
expected, we blamed every body. We spent a lot of time figuring out
what went wrong or who was at fault. We have a choice; we can let
others or circumstances control our life (by having negative thoughts)
OR we control our own life (by having positive thoughts). Like it or
not, we are responsible for causing our own effects in life. We reap
what we sow. Thus, instead of looking for what is wrong with our life,
let’s focus on what we can contribute to make our life work.
It will allow us to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which
increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend
more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck.
The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to
help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:
1. Take Good Care
of Yourself
It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising,
and getting enough rest.
2. Remind Yourself
of the Things You Are Grateful For
Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly
reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60
seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge
difference.
3. Look for the
Proof Instead of Making Assumptions
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that
we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not
reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood
is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly
gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them.
Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have
proof that there is something to worry about.
4. Refrain from
Using Absolutes
Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a
friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like
'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is, and
programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of
delivering.
5. Detach From
Negative Thoughts
Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If
you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness
it, and don't follow it.
6. Squash the "ANTs"
In his book "Change
Your Brain, Change Your Life", Dr. Daniel
Amen
talks about "ANTs" - Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad
thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing,
they must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must
be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing
more than ANTs and squash them!
7. Practice Loving,
Touching & Squeezing (Your Friends and Family)
You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug.
Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is
an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a
waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them
their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from
the ones she didn't touch!
8. Increase Your
Social Activity
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround
yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will
affect you in a positive way!
9. Volunteer for an
Organization, or Help another Person
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your
money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the
world, the more you will receive in return.
10. Use Pattern
Interrupts to Combat Rumination
If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt
the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different.
Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It's never
productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented, it's just
excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment - go for a walk
or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn
on some music.
When it comes to the corporate world, protocol is pretty much the
religion. To know the things needed to do are the basics of
productivity, but interaction and having a steady mind makes up the
entire thing to true productivity. There are those who seem to work
well even under pressure, but they're uncommon ones and we are human
and imperfect. To get these little things like stress under our skins
won't solve our problems. Sometimes it takes a bit of courage to admit
that we're turning to be workaholics than tell ourselves that we're not
doing our best.
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